Sunday, October 08, 2006

Question

Is it reasonable for a person to say that the friendship isn't working any more, but nevertheless assume that the other person will be there for them if something major happened? I mean, is that a fair assumption to be making? I'm confused.

8 comments:

Fuz said...

No its not. If someone says it isnt working its friendship over. To expect the other person to still be there is selfish.

However, in a major crisis, you realise who you really trust. Perhaps this is the persons way of saying they now know the friendship is good?

supervisor133 said...

I agree with Fuzz. If they think it's not working then they have no right to expect you to be there in a crisis.

However, I am likely to still be there if the crisis was big enough. Broke up with the latest gf/bf? Nah. Major illness or death in the family? Yeah, I'd probly be there. Depends on how poorly they treated you.

wai said...

You guys are the best!

Anonymous said...

That's funny someone said that to me the week. I agree with fuz - a friend in need is a friend indeed.

ninjawookie said...

-anonymous

but a friend with weed is better!.

(I do not condone the use of marijuana, i just liked the song)

Fuz said...

Wow. People agreeing with me? Almost makes me look intelligent. Almost.

Anonymous said...

I refer all to the definition:

1 a person whom you know well and whom you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family:
She's my best/oldest/closest friend - we've known each other since we were five.
He's a family friend/friend of the family.
This restaurant was recommended to me by a friend of mine.
We've been friends for years.
José and Pilar are (good) friends of ours.
We're (good) friends with José and Pilar.
She said that she and Peter were just (good) friends (= they were not having a sexual relationship).
I've made a lot of friends in this job.
He finds it difficult to make friends.
See also befriend.

2 someone who is not an enemy and whom you can trust:
You don't have to pretend anymore - you're among friends now.

3 someone who gives money to a theatre, other arts organization or charity in order to support it:
The Friends of the Royal Academy raised £10 000 towards the cost of the exhibition.

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/define.asp?key=31246&dict=CALD

Anonymous said...

SO TO RECAP: A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WHO YOU KNOW WELL, LIKE A LOT AND SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST.

SOUNDS SIMPLE BUT CAN BE SO COMPLICATED DEPENDING ON HOW MUCH YOU KNOW SOMEONE AND HOW MUCH THEY KNOW ABOUT YOU....AND YET LIFE IS JUST NOT THE SAME WITHOUT FRIENDS.